Differences Not Actively Bridged Will Destroy
Please enjoy this haiku I have written for all who suffer the effects of patriarchal bullshit. Let yourself feel hope in a balanced body politic.
Witnessing Addiction Mind
This is an excerpt of incredible personal transformation work done by a woman who agreed to let it be published (my suggestions in italics): What am I addicted to? Sex? Attention? Promises? What if all gaslighting and manipulative behaviors stopped tomorrow, what would change? Trust might have a chance again. But do I have to "act as if" this isn't really happening in order to get rid of it? Do I have to pretend these bastards are not fully conscious of what they are doing when they lie to me...
2020 – The Year of Truth
2020 is shaping up to be quite an incredible year and auspicious decade. I firmly believe that this is the year of safety - where feminine voices can be heard clearly by all - whether expressed by women or men. I am proclaiming this The Year of Emergence and will be writing a blog each month on topics that I find provocative and important. Here is the current plan:
Bon Voyage My Boy!
I went to lunch with my son. He is now 21 and after a year of listening to his stories about his big move, his quiet hoping and big dreaming about moving down south -- to get away from the cold -- he's finally doing it. I'm reminded of the year he begged me daily to take Driver's Ed so he could hasten his license. It took me that long to relent as his distractability behind the wheel gave me existential panic. And I'm trying to trust and let go again.
A New Presidential Cabinet
20 incredible candidates, only one of them will be nominated to run for President of the United States. We are in an unprecedented moment in history with six powerful women candidates. My goal here is to emphasize this fact and the pivotal turn we are taking in politics, where men are actually listening to women with an open heart and an open mind not just open eyes.
How to Extract White Mind from Your Mind
So the old white privileged heterosexual Christian male “alleged” sexual assaulter, Kavanaugh, has been granted lifelong authority at the highest federal judicial post, the Supreme Court of the United States. What next? To all of the women, who were inspired to tell their story [read mine here] after Christine Blasey Ford’s courageous testimony about being sexually assaulted by this new Supreme Court judge, I want to say, emphatically, IT IS STILL SAFE.
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Gender Liberation and Patronizing
I wrote an article about the sexual abuse crisis exposed on a grand scale in the Roman Catholic Church and pointed to the gender divide, along with other obvious-to-everyone observations, that helped set the stage for this crisis. I grew up Catholic and now reflect on the constant frustration and cognitive dissonance I felt in my immediate family, in my CCD classes, and during mass — about the depth of content and feeling evoked in me with the religious teachings and the absence or shallowness of conversation and lack of connection.
Wake the Folk Up
Alisa Garza (I believe) at the 2018 history-making Women's March, said that white women need to become ready, black and brown women need to be ready, and first nation women need to stay ready. Are we called to make yet more fucking change from within -- to get in there really deep and shine light on its dark side and ugly underbelly? Just stop. Are we either on the front lines and poor or praying from the comfort of a balanced checkbook? All I want to do is Shine Light on the Truth.
Musings on Sovereignty
Way back when, on May 17, 2004 the state of Massachusetts gave same sex couples the right to marry each other. While this was a monumental victory for the LGBTQ community, unleashing an intense freedom and sense of possibility in the minds, the spirits, and the physical bodies of each person in a same sex relationship in Massachusetts and beyond, one has to wonder about the power that a governing body like the State has over the lives of those who chose to live or work under its authority. Articles like this from Wikipedia remind us that such governing bodies [shall?] only have authority over that which they are granted by the collective, while this VT Digger article highlights how a state can artfully question the impositions of international authority on behalf of its citizens, and this Slate article delves deeper into the complications of a "higher" Federal authority to refute state sovereignty in the matter of same sex couples. The will of the people underlies the sovereignty of both the U.S. federal government and the states, but neither sovereignty is absolute and each operates within a system of dual sovereignty. According to the reservation clause of the Tenth Amendment, the federal state possesses only those powers delegated to it by