2020 is shaping up to be quite an incredible year and auspicious decade. I firmly believe that this is the year of safety - where feminine voices can be heard clearly by all - whether expressed by women or men. I am proclaiming this The Year of Emergence and will be writing a blog each month on topics that I find provocative and important. Here is the current plan:
Sunday was Father’s Day. It was an intense day in an intense week in an intense month in a freaking intense year. Very early in the morning, during the hours when I was supposed to be subconsciously processing the intensity of the day before, I had a thought: what would I do if I was in solitary confinement for a year? Would I go insane immediately? If not, what kind of games would I play with my mind in order to protect my sanity? I imagined myself getting tortured with being woken up every 90 minutes for what felt like an eternity. Each time, I went through the roll call of my family members names so I wouldn’t forget them.
The first thing that comes to mind about menopause is the fact that women literally start to fall apart with this life change. The comorbidities include heart disease, cancer, osteoporosis, stroke, dementia, auto immune disorders, general emotional un-wellness, and a variety of cancers -- not to mention the symptoms and effects such as sleeplessness, hot flashes, loss of bone density, etc. In searching for menopause shame I noticed that women speaking boldly about the stigmas around it are creating distance by naming it "the menopause."
When I think of inside-out I think about the way our bodies inform us - the subtle hints when something is starting to go wrong like a sixth sense, or the all too easy to ignore messages that our stomachs and other organs give us when our physical or emotional states are off kilter. At the moment, inside-out feels like the very real conversations we each need to have with ourselves.
Feminine consciousness is inclusive and generous. “It” cares less about who said what when, and more about harmony and justice. It is the higher minded, long term, visionary side of us that breeds compassion and values based actions. It is a counterbalance to hyper-individualism and a rudder for steering families, workplaces, and communities out of muddy waters. Some of the questions that arise alongside this broad and critical notion include these:
What is Energetic Excess? How does one find clarity when full of frenetic energy and chaos? And then what to do about it? This post is the MARCH edition of the 2020 Year of Truth and it includes a number of ways to begin dismantling patriarchal consciousness and behaviors.
Settling into these days of “sheltering in place“ we are gaining perspective about what is important... After the house has been cleaned, closets and garage and basement and attic spaces organized, conversations begin to unfold lovingly – the ones that have needed to emerge for too long... Heartbreak Shatters the Shell around the Heart and Awakens its Capacity to Love.
Stop. Just stop. It is no longer a request. It is a mandate. We will help you. We will bring the supersonic, high speed merry-go-round to a halt We will stop ... the frenetic, furied rush of illusions and “obligations” that keep you from hearing our single and shared beating heart, the way we breathe together, in unison.
2020 is the Year of Truth and what better month than February to dig into the essence of relationship communication? Let's tackle this up front and establish some important guidelines that can carry us through the whole year. So I've got a bit of a book review, a deep and insightful writing from a client to share, and general thoughts about transforming blah's into bliss!
Please enjoy this haiku I have written for all who suffer the effects of patriarchal bullshit. Let yourself feel hope in a balanced body politic.
This is an excerpt of incredible personal transformation work done by a woman who agreed to let it be published (my suggestions in italics): What am I addicted to? Sex? Attention? Promises? What if all gaslighting and manipulative behaviors stopped tomorrow, what would change? Trust might have a chance again. But do I have to "act as if" this isn't really happening in order to get rid of it? Do I have to pretend these bastards are not fully conscious of what they are doing when they lie to me...